SHARING : Beautifully Said – Timely Reminders

When you open yourself up to people, when you lower your guard for a moment and decide to be vulnerable, when you gather the courage to say what you feel, you’ll inevitably get hurt.

Someone will betray your secrets. Someone will laugh at your vulnerabilities. Someone will light your heart on fire. Sometimes on purpose, sometimes not.

Your relationship with the Creator is different though. You can pour out every secret to Him and know you’ll never be betrayed. You can whisper your dreams up towards the sky, and you won’t hear incredulous laughter or someone saying, “that’s a silly dream.” You can raise your hands and say, “I am so sad” or furious or disappointed, and you won’t hear, “get over it already.”

Nothing but love and mercy and forgiveness comes from opening up to The Merciful. He is shy to leave asking hands empty. But we continuously seek comfort and sustenance and love elsewhere, and then become surprised when we are met with ridicule or hurt.

There are wonderful souls wandering this earth, opening their hearts to people like you and me. But even with them, even in their warmest embraces and kindest words, you will not find the comfort of open palms towards the sky, and an open heart towards Allah.

SHARING – Prostitutes, Wine & Sultan Murad

This is one of my favourite story from the Ottoman Empire. Please check it out 🙂

Sultan Murad, the Sultan of the Ottoman Empire would often anonymously go into the midst of the people and see their state. One evening, he felt an uneasiness in himself and the urge to go out. He called for his head of security and and out they went. They came to a busy vicinity,and found a man lying on the ground. The Sultan prodded him but he was dead and the people were going about their own business. Nobody seemed to care about the dead man lying on the ground.

The Sultan called upon the people. they didn’t recognize him and asked him what he wanted. He said, “Why is this man lying dead on the ground and why does no one seem to care?
Where is his family? “They replied, “He is so and so, the drunkard and fornicator!”

The Sultan said, “Is he not from the Ummah of Muhammad SAW? Now help me carry him to his house” The people carried the dead man with the Sultan to his house and once they reached, they all left. The Sultan and his assistant remained.
When the man’s wife saw his dead body, she began weeping. She said to his dead body, “Allah have mercy on you! O friend of Allah! I bear witness that you are from the pious ones.

“The Sultan was bewildered. He said, “How is he from the pious ones when the people say such and such things about him. So much so that no one even cared he was dead?”

She replied, “I was expecting that. My husband would go to the tavern every night and buy as much wine as he could. He would then bring it home and pour it all down the drain. He would then say, “I saved the Muslims a little today.” He would then go to a prostitute, give her some money to bring her to our house and recite Quran to the woman till the morning. And he would say, “Today I saved a young woman and the youth of the believers from vice.”

The people would see him buy wine and they would see him go to the prostitutes and they would consequently talk about him. One day I said to him, “When you die, there will be no one to bathe you, there will be no one to pray over you and there will be no one to bury you!”

He laughed and replied, “Don’t fear, the Sultan of the believers, along with the pious ones shall pray over my body. “The Sultan began crying. He said, “By Allah! He has said the truth, for I am Sultan Murad. Tomorrow we shall bathe him, pray over him and bury him.” And it so happened that the Sultan, the scholars, the pious people and the masses prayed over him.

We judge people by what we see and what we hear from others. Only if we were to see what was concealed in their hearts, a secret between them and their Allah.

“O you who believe, abstain from many of the suspicions. Some suspicions are sins. And do not be curious (to find out faults of others), and do not backbite one another. Does one of you like that he eats the flesh of his dead brother? You would abhor it. And fear Allah. Surely Allah is Most-Relenting, Very-Merciful.” (Quran 49:12)

-Story of Ewliyah Nalıncı Mimi Dede from Istanbul

A tale of a 20 year old me :D

I came across this post in my old blog and thought I should share it here. Well to be honest, I am actually impressed with the “old me” …! *chuckles* … I was just 20- year- old wise granny then!

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Hey Peepz,.. How’s everyone out there???!! Am back with a bang!! Well, there are too many things to note down, but I’m not sure where to start! #NowPlaying – Mannipaaya on repeated mode.
Hmmm,… while coming back home in MRT, came across a special, teenage student. I was standing against the glass railings, when she came towards my direction smiling weirdly at me. Well just like “Mr Naidu” from my Psychotherapy class, I started my observation on her.
So this girl was behaving inappropriately and she was doing unusual acts she was not supposed to do.. I felt a little unusual and uncomfortable and helpless at the same time. “Like am I supposed to stop her???” – this is where i got reminded of something I learned. – Bystander effect… But at that moment, suddenly it strike me about working with special needs children and helping them. It’s about time I need to do something hands on!
And yeah, so while sharing about the short incident in my previous para, I realised that I have something else to share about too. It’s about the camp I attended recently… Due to confidentiality, I can’t share specific details, however, I brought back some lessons.

Especially, during adolescence, support from family is very important. Having both parents working, these days kids think that there is no one to care or spend time with them, hence, it leads them to join the bad company. These days, kids start smoking at the age of, as early as 9 years old and all these happen because of peer pressure. In one of my case study, I learned, according to these kids, if supposed they do not comply with what their peers tell them to do, they are not accepted in their groups. This causes a lack in sense of belonging. belonging.

However, I strongly believe that this is the stage where the students should learn to make their own decisions. Well, aren’t they old enough to know what’s right or wrong? Or aren’t they supposed to defend themselves? Teens these days fail to realise that having one good friend is better than having bad friends. Hence, it’s about time parents should step in, and be supportive of them. But how can they be supportive when they don’t even know what is going on in their child’s life?

Parents should spend more time with their children no matter how busy their schedule is. They should also share things with each other and build confidence in their children. This way, it gives their children a sense of protection and a sense of belonging and need not feel the need to seek it from their peers.

I encountered another problem during the study I had. It seems that the most common problem between an adolescent and the parents is a communication breakdown. Firstly it’s the lack of communication between them, whereas the other one is a misunderstanding. A small scenario I came across. A girl feels that her mum does not want to spend time with her, and on the other end, the mum feels that the girl does not want to spend time with her. But both yearn to spend time with each other. Hence, there is a communication breakdown between the girl and her mum.

In my case study, I got a chance to have a conversation with both the parents and the student and this is what I conclude. I could feel the love, care and concern they have in each other but they failed to express it to each other. During the end of the camp, it was when I realised it, especially after seeing the children and parents hugging each other, asking forgiveness, so on and so forth. 

So, here are some personal yet usual suggestions from my side to build a rapport between the family members [doing it together as a FAMILY].

  • Having bedtime talks before sleeping about daily happenings
  • Having at least one meal together
  • Making it a point whereby, every weekend to do some activities (shopping, sports….)
  • Going to the library together

I know, these are easier said than done but at this current situation, everyone is getting busy each day because of their career. Even studies are getting tougher. But I strongly encourage that some time should be spared for the family… 🙂
Now that I know the importance of a family, in future, I know what to do if I have a family on my own… 🙂
Unpleasant things can be avoided if efforts are taken. So please people, spare some time with FAMILY.
Haizzzz I was just looking through my timetable. My deadlines for assignments and case study are due in the first week of Dec. My exam break is during the second week while my exams fall during the third week. So which means my 21st birthday falls during my exam period
😦
However, I have decided what case study I am going to work on… And getting some notes on that. After which I have to work on the whole report followed by my “neuro” assignment… The question itself makes me want to break down. Keke… Well, that’s all for now. I think this post is long enough… will catch up soon friends. [i hope]
Lolzz…
One and Only Naz ;)xoxo

Get Rajini-fied – Part 1

Initially it made me wonder, why rajini-fied?? Isn’t it a-bit too over exaggerated? And then there came the GIFs, the memes and IG. My IG was flooded with them! Every single story had “rajini-fied” … Okay maybe I am exaggerating but majority of his fans are in my IG! So DUhhhhhhh

In fact, after watching the trailer, I very much wanted to watch the movie myself. Well like all the 80s-90s kids, me too grew up watching Rajini movies. I remember watching Thalapathy when I was really young with my favourite late aunt and my mum. I guess I was only about 3 or 4 years old? Since I grew up in my grandma’s house for a while, I used to watch “Mannan” like a zillion times, that was because, it was her favourite movie. Besides Mannan, I watched Muthu, Arunachalam, etc in my grandma’s place. Another Rajini’s movie I watched several times, over 300-400 times was Padayappa. I remember, back then, it was recorded in the video cassette, I watched it almost everyday, over a year that I could remember every single dialogues in that movie. Me, not being a comedy fan, by far, that was the best comedy by him! However, that same year, I became Vijay’s fan after watching “Ninaithaen Vanthaay” and ever since he’s my favourite. I lose interest in watching Rajini’s movie after Lingaa though.

To be continued…..

Thalapathy or Thalavali – Chronicles of “Port Dickson”

Me : heyy I was the Thalapathy la (a leader)

My friend’s husband : You sure you are the Thalapathy and not Thalavali (headache)?? #facepalm

It all started with a random conversation during a wedding.

Looking back at the trip. Our travelling time seemed longer than the time we stayed there BUT it was one of the best trip I had in 2018.

So here’s how I became Thalapathy. I was the organiser for the trip. Which means, it started off with sorting out the dates till liaising with the driver. The communication with the driver was rather challenging. Well, obviously he was from my neighbourhood country, I had problems communicating with him in English. Worst still, I wasn’t that proficient in Malay too. I hated it when he me “sir” a couple of times! #facepalm. Apparently they started calling me “Thalapathy” when I was asleep in the car. And when I asked them why, they told me that my effort in communicating with the driver was commendable especially with my “broken Malay” ! Seriously girls ???

This trip was a fun filled trip with some relaxation as well as musical.

Question of the Day – No. 250

As I was answering questions from this blog site, I came across this intriguing question and thought of just blogging about it. If given a chance to change from your past, would you & why?

Yes indefinitely. As much as I don’t want to have any regrets, I mean who wants it right??? But that particular incident was a very regretful incident in my life.

As I was reading some comments and answers for this question, I envied some, especially when they grew from their unpleasant incident.

As for me, I was finding myself from growing apart from it.

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If given a chance to change a moment from your past, would you? And what?

proposed by theCommonGirl

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Your Feelings Are Overrated.

Definitely a good read. It allowed me to reflect too.

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We are often told to act in alignment to what we feel. How we feel. For whom we feel. This notion of acting in alignment with our feelings can be a dangerous mindset.

In fact, allow me to tell you that your feelings are completley overrated. They are unimportant.

Look, there are only 2 reasons to do things in life.

  1. Because it feels good
  2. Because you believe its something to be right/good

Sometimes these two reasons align. We do something that feels good and we know is the right thing/a good thing to do. We do it, and you and everyone else is happy and we all live happily ever after.

But more often, they don’t align. Doing something that feels good is much easier than doing something that doesn’t feel good, but we know is the right thing to do.

Doing something that feels good is easy, but isn’t…

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My Love for Chitra Ma

Not sure if its her personality, her voice or the songs she sang… but she is one and only lady in entertainment industry, I would love to give a BIG TIGHT HUG and tonnes and tonnes of kisses to! ❤ ❤ ❤